Sands of Time

Five here equals five owed there.  A weekend here must equal another weekend there. It’s not about the hours counted and parceled out.  It’s about quality time. Not quantity. One happy with a weekend, one happy with an evening, another with a day in the garage or a picnic, yet sometimes an hour for coffee will suffice as catch as catch can.  It’s as much about the individual as how much time you have to give. Is EVERYTHING about equal and fair? Isn’t this about balancing want with need of the individual, yourself, and the whole?

We won’t always get what we want.  But if you don’t know, because you don’t ask; everyone looses, including you.

When you become rigid in the “schedule” everyone holds on to their piece so tightly there is no room for flexibility.  Because we don’t exactly know how to do this on our own, do you now have to rule with force by demanding and issuing orders?  Do you then become resentful even though that is the rule you set before us to live by?  Are you teaching us how to be gracious and compassionate towards others with the inflexibility of it all?

Me thinks so.   Me thinks we don’t toss these ideas out on the table soon enough. We wait until the situation arises, and then end up doing damage control around hurt feelings that results in your disappointment in us.

We’re a little bit like children learning how to share among ourselves.  Do you always want to be the parent who relies on “Because I told you so”?  Or the parent who teaches and guides?

As long as no one throws anyone else under the bus inadvertently or otherwise. Here’s a potential problem.   What is talked or relayed between two and then relayed to another changes hue if not color..  Each puts a personal spin on it when they translate into their own words. Most of the time there is no ill intent. 

The faith comes by trusting that what is relayed is only the essence of a conversation; a rough approximation. That is will not be used against another because it is at this point, hearsay. Waiting to hear directly from another their exact thoughts will go a long way to not misconstruing information that has probably changed, and provides a safe space for anyone to talk to each other and to you without worry about what was said by whom, when and in what context…..

so different we are her and I.

a most unlikely combination

of leo and capricorn.

ridiculously opposite

perfectly balanced

tossing the ball back and forth.

ideas, fears,

hopes, dreams,

laughter, tears

of the sisters so very different

yet so much the same.

does she know how much she centers me?

how much she’s helped me these past few months?

it leaves me puzzled and grateful

to have such support for each other.

if only he could see

really see who we are

together and individually

with the love we have

more than ourselves

in this odd combination

of personality and philosophies.

how carefully we feed

building weakness

into strengths

treading where others

dare not go.

with unspoken agreement

she picked me as I picked her.

I am left wondering

when did that happen between us?

i cannot pinpoint a day and time.

i only know what it is today

as we stand

side by side

drinking the blood of slain dragons

and tending each others wounds