Some quick thoughts this morning:
While I can understand emotional masochism as a form of “play” in the context of a “scene”; I cannot understand it as a constant 24/7 dynamic.
While it’s true that there are many who love and perhaps thrive on this form of “play”, it feels and looks like more of a convenient excuse for a form of abuse under the guise of bdsm.
Just my take on what I see and feel as I step back and look into the room instead of navigating the room. It reminds me of the emotional abuse I suffered with my alcoholic ex. Chronic white lies, and outright lies, deliberate omission of facts, what was said designed to make me question what I heard or didn’t hear on any one day or week or month.
His chaos and resulting chaotic energy sucked the life out of everyone around him. Always a deliberately created imbalance……
Perhaps nothing more than a trigger. A trigger I need to deal with instead of avoid?
I don’t want that here. I cannot do that anymore.
Sands of Time 
weird.. I just came from here
http://streetlightsimagination.com/2012/11/12/signage/
and it just fits here ..nicely…
hmmm
Synchronisity.. it feels good.
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Synchronicity is right! Thanks for the link.
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I really understand your take on this Rosa..While I can understand 24/7 submission..I can’t understand why someone would willingly be abused emotionally. I too walked away from a husband who drank too much and lied constantly.
I have actually written a poem about emotional pain on my blog.. https://geminiwords.wordpress.com/2012/10/09/pain/
Thank you for visiting and following too x
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I can’t either. Add a layer of bdsm, with the mask of Dominance and submission/slavery to the emotional abuser’s tools and the lines become much more muddy indeed. Unfortunately it is what I see. Who in their right mind would tell their beloved they are an embarrassment to them and have been for many years?
It’s one of the things I dislike about the lifestyle. The convenience of operating under that “mask”. And the destruction that follows…
I am sorry you understand so well what I speak of.
((hugs))
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My ex husband was a weak man, prone to obsessions and addictions and actually not a Dominant. I was fortunate that my Dominant never abused me or embarrassed me and we had a great deal of respect and trust for each other…for other reasons we decided to part our ways, but are still good friends. I can, however see that some ‘so called dominants’ could use the lifestyle as an excuse to be mentally and sadistic without respect for their submissive. Fortunately I have been able to put the unhappiness I suffered at the hands of my ex husband behind me.
I wish you future happiness.
Gem xxx
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Maybe it’s a bit of both. Hugs again…
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Perhaps. Still processing. I do know it gives me a very big sick feeling in the pit of my stomach….
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Relationships are never easy.
Hang in there.
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