i don’t figure in this at all.
she doesn’t owe me anything.
not kindness, not politeness, nothing whatsoever
no matter what he says
it will breed resentment to mention it
to give her punishment for not calling
no matter what i think of the behavior
I don’t want to figure in this at all.

another’s lack of responsibility is theirs alone.
and should not come as punishment by way of my feelings about it.

but it’s not up to me to make that decision.

the only decision I make is to accept his judgement of what is necessary and what is not.
and not trust words until i see behavior indicating otherwise…