It’s interesting to me on *how* relationships shift and change through time, but not necessarily *why* that change happens.  Sometimes the most subtle of shifts are the most profound and mean the most.

How we or others relate on any given day is largely due to pressure from the world around us. Perceived or otherwise, we allow it to influence us.

And then there are overall dynamics of “relationship”, or context of a particular relationship. Sometimes we can insulate the “outside” from the “sphere” of two. Most times I find that we cannot….

Sometimes things are out of context.  How we act with one person-even in an intimate relationship-is not how we act with another in an intimate relationship whether that be sex and a certain kind of kink, how we treat someone in daily life, or even the favors we are prone to granting one but not another…..

Just when we think we’ve got it down or “expect” a certain response, it changes yet again.

This change is what I’ve been waiting for, asking for, seeking…..

I shed alligator tears at the tenderness of the gestures, and in gratitude to know I am so loved and valued…

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I’ve been meaning to tell you something.

Not sure how to say it……
I’ve recently noticed a pronounced difference in *how* you relate to me.

You’ve taken to acknowledging when I might not particularly want to do something
or hear something.

And it shifts any immediate or potential disappointment  on my part, (or any justification I *think* I might have, for that matter), because it lets me know you’ve thought about how I might feel in it all.

It allows me to hear and think about what you are really saying instead of hearing my disappointment over the top of your words whether I give it voice or not.

It gives *me* time to consider how important whatever it is in the larger scheme of things. Most of the time, it’s just not all that important.  And even if it was…well, there’s always another time.
It also (very nicely I might add) maintains your authority.

I’m pretty impressed.

I guess what I am trying to say is that I really appreciate this softness from you.
I need soft from you.  It opens a window to me being soft in return.

Thank you.

I wish I could shine that way for you…..