What is the commonality in a “need” and a “want”?
Is there commonality? Or are they two separate entities?
Sure, we “need”water. We may “want” a newer car. We may “need” a newer car.
Aside from the obvious….taking it out of the realm of the material world and taking this into our core being…our emotional or spiritual or intellectual being…….is there a difference?
I find my “needs” and “wants” are tangled together. They approach sameness…not difference.
Some months ago we talked about my desire to surrender completely in sex. He asked if it was a “need” or a “want”.
At the time I had no clear answer. The issue came up again last night. I find that the “need” and the “want” are inseparable.
And thinking further on this, I think this is true for for most, if not all, of my emotional, spiritual and intellectual being. I’m finding that true on the physical plane as well. And why not….the physical plane is connect to the rest of me anyway. At least in the realm of sexuality and sensuality.
My “want” for skin is the same as my “need” for skin.
What am I missing here? Or am I?
What say you, all you wise souls out there?
Sands of Time 
ps…just noticed the date on this posting…..lol. I know you’re working on some updates here at the moment and I don’t always take note of what’s ‘current’ before I respond to it. Like I said in my comment…..a kind of serendipitous posting for me today so I don’t suppose that matters!
xxx
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I’m not sure I’d class myself as a ‘wise soul’ but its strange you should have posted this today. I drove to a meeting earlier and, as I often do, mind-blogged on route. I was thinking about the difference between wants and needs, particularly when it comes to relationships.
I think its pretty obvious to anyone who reads my blog how much I love He Who Must Be Adored. Yet if I was asked if I ‘need’ him in my life, the answer would be no, yet I most emphatically want him in my life. I guess that ‘needs’ to me suggests something I could not survive without…..whereas ‘wants’ are all those things which make my life richer, fuller, happier, more fulfilling.
I very much identify with that desire to completely surrender during sex. I’ve found the times that happens are mindblowingly incredible. I can understand too the tangle about whether this is a need or a want….because for me too it can sometimes feel like both. Yet if I use my own criteria, it has to be a want. Its one of those things which makes my life richer and fuller, but if I had to, I know I’d survive without it. That said, I hope I don’t have too any time soon!!
Don’t know if that helps at all!
love and hugs xxx
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I’m chuckling a bit because as I was going thru posts and updating them this morning, when I came across this one. It’s something that came up for me, again, in the past few days in talking to Muse. Specifically-telling him I was very cognizant of the fact that I don’t “need” him anymore. At least not like I did the last time I was here. Anyway-he doesn’t “need” me to “need” him, either.
it does and I have to agree. I like defining terms as it gives it some “shape” to work with. The thing that overlaps for me and always has-and always will-is touch. It’s as much a want as a need. Sometimes I think it’s a physical need that acts almost like an addiction……
Thanks for your comments. Much Love, M:e.
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